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Learning more.."Sarah Victoria  Starling & John Beeby"

England at that time was extremely class-conscious and the unwritten rules governing whom one associated with and married were strictly followed.

When Sarah reached her late teens, she was an exceptionally tall as well as attractive, and her parents began to consider possible suitors who would be acceptable socially and financially.

In the meantime, Sarah, on one of her visits to her father's office, had met one of his young clerks, John Beeby.  They were attracted to one another, but this was firmly discouraged by Sarah's parents. John Beeby was considered to be of a lower class and definitely socially inferior, despite the fact that he was an intelligent and hardworking young man.  Consequently, they stepped up their search for a suitable husband for Sarah. 

They thought that they had made a match.  The son of an acquaintance seemed to fill the bill, and both sets of parents arranged a meeting.

Sarah was informed of the arrangement and was told that she would be meeting her fiancé-to-be at tea the next afternoon.

As the appointed hour approached, Sarah PAced about her bedroom and kept sharp watch out of her window. She wanted to see him first, before the formal introduction.

Hearing a carriage driving up on the street, she peeked through the curtains and was both shocked and indignant to see that her intended fiancée with short – much shorter than she, and she vowed then and there never to marry him.

Instead, she slipped down the back stairway and out of the house.  She made her way to were father's office and poured out her story to John Beeby. They decided to elope at once to be married.  The date was April 13, 1854.

You can imagine the outrage her parents felt at this a bit of news.  They never recovered from the shock of Sarah marrying "beneath her." They apparently disinherited their daughter. That is not definitely known. But Sarah saw little of her parents after that.

My grandmother was John and Sarah Beeby's first born, arriving March 5, 1855, "at 20 minutes past seven at night," according to a document in her own handwriting.  There was one other child, also a daughter, named Eleanor Constance (and called Nellie), born April 19, 1857.

"Two-Mommy and Two-Daddy"

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